Life Coaching Can Set You Free

Lesley Hornsby
Lesley Hornsby

Hello and welcome to Chart a Better Life. The fact that you’ve found yourself here probably means you finally decided that enough is enough and it’s time to get your life back on course!

Maybe you’ve been feeling stuck or can’t shake the sensation that something’s up but don’t exactly know what?  You want to get off the couch and start ‘doing’, not just imagining. It could be anything from pursuing a life’s dream to something as fundamental as a desire to reclaim your self esteem. With a bit of help you can learn to banish the negative internal dialogue. You know, the one that just loves to focus on things like, how hard it’ll be or you’re bound to fail and in some cases, that the risk is just too high.

Whatever your reaching for, it’s never too late to take that step. Believe me, I’ve been there.  Looking back over my own life, my head literally aches remembering missed opportunities, stupid decisions and at times, when I allowed fear to control my actions and ambitions.

And perhaps the worst self sabotage of all, I was just awful at asking for help. It was only after talking things through with someone else, that I began to understand what needed to change and how to make that happen. I learned to harness a resilience I didn’t know I had and admit that accepting help wasn’t weakness.

Whether you’re not clear on what’s holding you back or know damn well what the problem is but feel helpless to take action, together we can figure it out. 

 Will coaching be right for me?

To give you context, below are just some of the reasons people have sought me out:

  • To gain more control over life
  • Develop greater self confidence
  • Find a way to reduce stress and anxiety
  • Improve my sense of well-being and happiness 
  • Have a clearer vision of where I’m headed
  • Create better and more fulfilling relationships
  • Be more productive
  • Improve and create better friendships and social life
  • Be able to harness greater motivation and enthusiasm

How Can You Help Me?

I’m a certified coach running a full-time coaching practice online via Zoom, Skype or WhatsApp (depending on client preference).  I also offer face to face when requested and practical.  I’ve worked with many people, from all walks of life.  So if talking to someone friendly and professional, who can empower you to totally transform your self-perception, dispel your self-limiting beliefs, or actually start taking action to become significantly wealthier, healthier or happier; together we can do it!

First step?  Don’t be afraid to ask for help!  Thankfully there’s less stigma nowadays than there once was, but people are still often reluctant to do it; seeing it as a sign of weakness or worse still, self-indulgent.  Actually, you’re demonstrating strength.  The most confident and successful people are those that acknowledge what they can and can’t do unassisted. 

I love being a coach.  Truly, I can’t tell you how rewarding it is to help people transform their lives, whether it’s providing a chance to realise their fantastic resources and resilience and make that life’s dream come true or break down stultifying barrier beliefs, so you’re able to set yourself ‘free’.

And it’s not just about qualifications in coaching.  Any good coach uses their own life lessons.  And believe me I’ve got a barrel of them, from chronic life-long illness to facing personal financial crisis.  It’s all there on my About Me page if you want to know more. 

Life is challenging.  Other people can be challenging.  Living in this modern, crazy, ‘race about with your hair on fire’ world, is challenging.  But we survive.  What’s important is you don’t have to do it alone.  If you know you just need a boost (that’s a polite way of saying, ‘a kick up the backside’); someone to help you gain some perspective or you feel like you’re ‘drowning’ under the weight of it all, I’m here to help you.  All you have to do is reach out…

I’m here ready to get you started…it’s just a matter of taking that first step…

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About Me

My story…

My mum died a year ago and despite the passage of time, I still miss her like crazy.  I knew I would; we were very close.  Aged 52 my amazing mum donated her kidney to save me from a life on dialysis!  That alone, I imagine, gives you some idea of our relationship.

So why am I telling you this?  Well when I sat down to write this, I thought if I was going to tell you ‘about me’ then it should be the uncensored truth about who I am and what I value and believe in.  To understand that you need to understand my life; where I’ve been and where I’m going.

To begin with, from the age of fifteen, I’ve spent my life battling ill health.  Though a naturally resilient person, I doubt I’d have made it through without my mum; a dynamic but steadying force that anchored me through a lot of pretty stormy years.

I was lucky to survive Wegener’s granulomatosis (yes, I’d never heard of it either) but as a consequence, my schooling was cut short.  Aged seventeen,  I emerged from the worst effects of the disease with sod all in the way of qualifications and physically a total mess.  I’d lost all my hair; my face was bloated like a football from steroids and the Wegener’s had not only mashed my kidneys, but destroyed the cartilage in my nose so I looked like a prize fighter who’d taken on one too many fights.  Yes, I wasn’t going to be winning any beauty competitions any time soon. 

When I went back to my school to say hello to fellow students and teachers, my form teacher, who’d known me for over five years, didn’t even recognise me.  That’s when it dawned on me the enormity of what had happened to me.

By nineteen,  I’d had an op to repair my face and my hair had regrown.  However, I freely admit my self-esteem was basically buggered.  But did I mention resilience?

Over the next 15 years, in between hospital visits and taking enough meds to start my own pharmacy, I dug in, studied my backside off and eventually got some basic qualifications;.  I eventually gained an honours degree in English Language with the Open University, one of the most challenging exercises in self discipline I have ever faced.  It took me 4 years but I did it.  By the age of thirty I was doing pretty well working as a CIPD qualified learning and development professional.

I weathered a couple of redundancies and eventually started my own business.  By then a skilled IT and soft skills trainer I found work relatively easily, the only drawback was that it was almost entirely through 3rd party training providers.

Any good trainer offers a wealth of knowledge and skill always striving to give people the best learning experience they can.  We work long hours either training, self-educating or researching material that will enrich and inspire our clients.  But if you do that as an ‘associate’ trainer you basically watch someone else take a percentage of your fee so large, that it’s difficult to make a living.  Why would anyone put up with that you might ask?!  Good question. Because I was just crap at marketing myself in order to get my clients directly.  Zero self-belief; no experience of doing it and no idea how to get it.  Because of this unreasoned fear about pretty much everything to do with selling my ‘brand’, I ‘literally’ paid the price.

You know I’m thinking whilst writing this; I’m pretty sure I’m not alone here?  It sucks doesn’t it?  You slog away at a job you hate or maybe as in my case, suffer the indignity of constantly being undervalued by people with usually half your ability or talent, but who don’t let fear get in their way.

Of course nobody has a trouble free life, so before long I was facing yet another challenge.  Having just survived an extremely difficult divorce, I was thirty-five when my first transplant began to fail.  The next decade was spent on renal dialysis.  Determined not to be beaten by this setback, I found a way to dialyse over-night, so I could still continue to work, but I won’t lie, it was hard, both physically and mentally.  From that point on I never got a good foothold on my career.  My earnings were heavily curtailed and eventually I had to sell my house and return to my parents.  Thank G-d for them right?

Eventually my number finally came up (in a good way) and I was lucky enough to get a second transplant.  I won’t bore you with the details, but it worked well enough for 8 years or so.  The truth of it is however, they don’t last a lifetime I’m afraid. 

Anyway, during the last few of years of my parents’ lives, they became increasingly dependent on me for help with the normal day to day stuff and my working life became even more precarious, to the point where they were more or less supporting me, so I could be around to take care of them.

I hadn’t been idle during this time though and continued to invest in my education, studying life coaching with a Level 5 Diploma in Performance Coaching with NLP, accredited by the National Council of Psychotherapists. This is when my life really snapped into focus.  It was inspirational; exciting and turned me into an NLP nut.  Just loved it!  But whilst it dovetailed beautifully into all my communication skills training, I still felt trapped by my own inadequacy when it came to self-promotion.

Less than two years after my dad died, mum developed terminal lung cancer.  Diagnosed that February, she died 2 months later and I found myself adrift and alone.  No one to care for.  No one needed me.  I was without direction and very little income.  Perhaps unsurprisingly, it occurred to me that if I didn’t start taking my life back, I’d be facing a very uncertain financial future.  No parents to fall back on and limited choices with regards to earning a living.  I won’t lie to you, I was pretty panicked.  I had visions of ending up in social care, totally reliant on the state, not something I ever envisaged would figure in my future.

I thought, right Lesley, you’d better get your sh*t together here.  You’ve got to get a handle on marketing yourself online.  I’d already gone to the expense, and frankly at the time torture, of designing my own website for my business a couple of years before and then sat like a numpty waiting for the phone to start ringing.  Guess what; didn’t happen!

My coaching and training skills give me plenty of opportunity to support and help other people, something that brings me untold reward and fulfilment.  I coach and train all kinds of behavioural related things, be it finding greater confidence in public speaking to positively managing your emotions.  Apparently however, when it comes to helping myself I don’t always follow my own advice.

It was time yet again to take action.  Desperate to improve my ability to self promote, one rather dull summer’s afternoon I was trawling through the ‘tinterweb and stumbled across a YouTube video of Dan, a young guy who was talking about internet marketing and how a business called Six Figure Mentors (SFM) had catapulted his life into one of success and financial independence.  Now just so as you know,  I’m sceptical and suspicious by nature, as cynical an audience as any would-be marketer is likely to encounter.  Had my fingers burnt more times than I care to admit.  One thing I will always do however, is listen.   If they haven’t lost me to boredom or disbelief in the first couple of minutes, I’ll listen some more…

It was just something in the way he described his belief in this company and what they offered.  Something indefatigable but entirely genuine.  So you know what?  Cautiously I took the next step and frankly there was no real jeopardy at this stage ‘cos the training they were offering was FREE!  Yep, you heard me folks, absolutely zero outlay! Grudgingly I admit, I got a bit inspired.  So, I took another step and then another.  Then I got annoyed.  The other shoe just refused to drop.  I’d stare at videos of this guy Stuart Ross and mumble at the screen ‘come on then, let’s have it…what’s the catch?’  On he’d go.  ‘Are you prepared to work hard because that’s what it’s going to take?’  Yep, no problem.  ‘Can you be dedicated to the process?’  Sure, I can do that.  ‘Are you capable of single-minded focus?’  Don’t you know me at all?!

By the time I’d reached Module 4 in their training program, my heart was literally pounding out of my chest with the possibility of it all.  That I…I could actually make this work for me.  It was no longer just about being able to market myself and my business, if I really harnessed what SFM was offering, I could actually make enough money, not just to live on, but to open my world up in a way I had NEVER even dared to imagine for myself.

The journey with SFM has been exciting, scary, exhausting and thrilling in equal measure.  But it provided me with invaluable help, building my business and more importantly for me, shed the bleak rather pathetic future of just getting by.  I felt like someone just nuked that image right out of my head and with the support of the SFM community, a group currently over 3500 strong; other people all doing the same thing, it’s like a mad crowd of happy, successful people are waving at me from a not too distant horizon, beckoning me to join them; inviting me to dive into a life that can be whatever I want it to be.  Doesn’t matter if I have to hook up to a dialysis machine now does it?  Not if I’ve got this thing nailed down.   I now combine my time working as a life coach, soft skills trainer and affiliate marketer.  I know a laptop lifestyle isn’t for everyone, but the freedom if offers?  Wow!  And now more than ever it’s a choice worth considering, given how the world has shifted since the COVID 19 pandemic hit.  It’s made getting plugged in and online more important than ever.  For someone like me who’s working life was already dogged by restrictions, learning online marketing has literally saved my professional life.  It’s allowed me to be able to take care of myself and live my best life possible, no matter what!

So there you have it. My life laid bare. And yes, I have ended up back on dialysis…hoping some day to be lucky enough to have another transplant. But in the meantime life goes on.

You know, whatever you’re looking for in your own life, if I’ve learned anything on my own journey it’s this:

You need a plan. Set some goals. Then most importantly, take action! Maybe you’re one of the lucky few who can overcome life’s obstacles unaided, but if not, then why not get in touch. I’d love to help you turn your life around too.

If, by the way, you want to know how I got started working in affiliate marketing, then click here. It’ll take you to the Affiliate Marketing page and there you’ll see where my first steps began.  You’ll be given some insight into what SFM can offer, as well as valuable information, plus access to their free training offer. 

You know, Phillip Brooks an American Episcopal clergyman, said, “We are haunted by an ideal life…because we have within us the beginning and the possibility of it.”

I think he’s probably right, don’t you?

————————- About the Author —————————

Lesley Hornsby

Lesley Hornsby

I’m certified in life coaching with NLP, as well as a CIPD qualified learning and development professional, running my own personal development business. I enjoy sharing tips and advice with people to enhance their own life experience and learn new ways to positively navigate their lives.

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Getting in Touch

Outstanding…you’ve made the first move; the hardest bit of all!!

Chart a Better Life is all about helping you re-evaluate, make changes, realise dreams and enjoy life!

We’ll begin with a free 30 minute call designed to help us sift through, identity what you need and begin the plan for change.

We’ll talk through what the coaching process entails, give you a chance to ask questions and identify a starting point.  It also provides you with the opportunity to judge whether we’re a good fit as coach and coachee.  These things are a very personal choice and it’s important that you feel comfortable.

Should you then decide you’d like to book a session or sessions, I’ll forward you a preliminary email that will include a coaching agreement form and a short questionnaire that’s designed to accurately focus our session(s) together.  The questionnaire shouldn’t take more than 5 minutes and the best advice I can give, is to answer honestly.   If my email is a ‘no show’ by the way; then try checking your spam/junk folder in case it’s been diverted.

Can’t wait to meet you!

Best wishes, Lesley

ps: Just to clarify, our first conversation is about getting to know each other and formulating a plan rather than coaching.  If you’re not genuinely interested in possibly working with me and just like the idea of some free coaching, then I’d ask you not to use the form…appreciate your respect.  Of course if you just want to say hello and ask something, fill your boots!  I’ll be happy to answer any questions. not already provided on my website.

Get in touch and let me help you take your life back!